Therapy in Minnesota for Moms
Expert support and guidance for women becoming a mother, those who are already mothers, or those who play the mother role in someone’s life.
Does Motherhood feel more exhausting than life-giving?
Even if it seems to others like you have it all together, no one knows the toll it takes on you as you juggle it all. Asking for help is difficult because you compare yourself to the other women who make mothering look easy. In devoting all your time and energy to meeting everyone else’s needs and expectations, you have lost sight of yourself. The cards feel stacked against you and it feels like there is not enough time in the day, but yet you can’t wait for the day to be over. The relationships in your life are changing, especially your relationship with yourself. Everything feels out of balance.
Do you put everyone else’s needs before your own? Have you lost sight of yourself while taking care of everyone who counts on you?
Do you feel negatively towards yourself and compare yourself to other women?
Do you feel stuck? Empty? Anxious? Unhappy?
Do you feel unappreciated and alone even though you never actually get any time to yourself?
Find your way back to yourself.
For many of us, we are stuck in survival mode and it can be hard to step back and see options from a big-picture point of view. Therapy can help you devote time to examine, reflect, and determine targeted action steps to curate the life that you want for yourself and your family. It can teach you coping skills for the periods of anxiety and depression that commonly occur within motherhood. It can help you understand yourself and your children on a deep level so that you can be the best version of yourself and the parent and partner that you have wanted to be for your family. Therapy can help you find your way back to yourself so you can feel confident and have the capacity to be fully present, and thoroughly enjoy your life again.
A Mothercentric Approach
There is already so much focus on the child; even within obstetric care, the focus is more on the baby than the mother. I take a mothercentric approach where I believe just as much focus needs to be on the mother before, during, and after the process of creating and bringing life into the world as there is on the baby; and that balance of attention is imperative in every phase of life that the mother and child will go through together.
The Mother is the heartbeat of the family and when she is good, everything else for the family becomes better. I see therapy as the equivalent to the regular, recurring well-child checks we make sure our children complete; think of therapy as your Well-Mother check-ins.
Cycle Breaking for Moms
Oftentimes, parenting triggers thoughts, feelings, and memories from our own childhood which can put us in a place of reactivity towards our own children. Motherhood presents a huge opportunity to cycle-break so that we do not pass down the hurts and hardships that have sub-consciously and negatively impacted us to the next generation. The moments in parenting where we “mess up” or feel like we’ve lost control is when our kids trigger our own past hurts that we haven’t come to terms with, worked through, or let go of.
A large part of cycle-breaking as a Mom is to heal your own mother wounds by finally meeting the needs of your inner child that were not met during your childhood. This work gives us the opportunity to see our kids for who they are and what they need rather than parent them based on what we needed and didn’t receive back then.
Mothercentric therapy that:
Leaves you feeling understood, nurtured, and cared for.
Increases your self-awareness, self-trust, and self-acceptance and allows you to feel confident, present, and fulfilled in your life.
Helps you break the cycles of dysfunction, harm, and relational trauma so that you can be the parent your child needs you to be.
Teaches you how to target your energy and efforts in the ways that allow your emotional container to have the space and capacity to hold both your child(s) needs as well as your own.
