Therapy in Minnesota for Young Adults

Therapy that allows for
Exploration, Insight, Healing, and Growth

What do you want for your life?

Self-exploration is the cornerstone of young adulthood. You get to branch out from your family and figure out what you want for your life. On one hand the phase of life you are in is exciting and lively, but the shadow side of this period in life can be fringed with self-doubt, imposter syndrome, perfectionism, hustle-culture, anxiety, depression, comparison with others, lack of direction, fear, lacking self-esteem, stress, and self-criticism. Sound familiar?

And no one tells you how HARD it is to transition into adulthood. All of the pressure you feel to figure your life out, not make mistakes, and have no regrets. That pressure is real. You are expected to make huge life decisions when you are just getting to know yourself.

Without the rose-colored glasses of childhood, you may start to notice ways in which some dynamics in the relationships in your life are messed up or not normal. This realization can be overwhelming at first, but the awareness gives you a choice. You can choose to carry forward the toxic dynamics in your life OR choose to be the one who stops them.

This type of self-improvement work is called
Cycle Breaking

Choosing not to fix the unhealthy dynamics in your life keeps you stuck in everything that isn’t working for you, cutting off the growth opportunities that are presented to you. Conversely, if you choose to intentionally work towards bettering yourself, you will find clarity about what your purpose is, discover who you want to be, and set yourself up for the life that you want.

You have the potential to cycle-break if you experienced even just one of the following:

  • Harmful, toxic, or dysfunctional family dynamics

  • Emotionally distant, invalidating, immature, or fragile caregiver(s)

  • A caregiver who struggled with their own mental health or substance abuse

  • A narcissistic or authoritative parent or caregiver

  • Physical, emotional, verbal, sexual abuse or neglect

  • Loss of a parent or caregiver or disruptions in primary caregivers in childhood

  • Felt unloved, unwanted, believed that love was conditional, or that you had to be a certain way to be accepted in your family

  • Codependency

You do not have to navigate what is happening in your life alone.

Therapy can provide a space for you to gain self-awareness so that you can learn what needs to change. The purpose of therapy that is depth-oriented is to develop a deep well of self-trust and self-acceptance that will become your guide for wherever your life takes you.

It is possible to break free from the cycles in your life that haven’t been working for you and, in the process, discover who you are meant to be.

 FAQs

  • Therapists have years of education, training, and experience helping people identify and work with the challenges they face. They are also a third party observer that can bring a more objective perspective to the issues you bring to session. Therapists’ Code of Ethics requires them to maintain confidentiality as well as a non-judgmental stance that allows you to be more transparent and vulnerable; this opens up more opportunities for healing, change, and growth.

    Although friends are often well-intentioned and may be good at supporting and listening, their advice and guidance might not be backed by anything other than their own experiences. Also, they are most likely going to be too close to the situation to be able to see a clear view from all sides of what is going on the way that a therapist will be able to. Their skewed perspective may not provide the kind of guidance that you need.

  • There is no specific length of time that a therapist can guarantee, but there are a few factors that you can control that will enable faster change. Your level of readiness, motivation, and engagement are the three things you will want to check in with yourself before starting therapy. Here are some questions to ask yourself to see how motivated and engaged you will likely be in therapy:

    Do I want to feel better?

    Do I understand that it will take work and effort to change?

    Am I willing to put in the work that my therapist and I agree to between sessions?

    If your answer was YES to these questions, then there is a good chance that you are motivated and want to engage in therapy which will help the change process move along more quickly.

  • For therapy to be effective, you have to be willing to see and take responsibility for your choices, actions, and decisions. If you are just looking to have someone to vent to or feel sympathy towards your situation, you might find that therapy will not be that effective. A therapist’s job is to walk the line of being empathic and compassionate while also challenging and pushing you. That fine line that good therapists are able to walk is what will create a safe space to explore, but also hold you accountable through the changes you want to make.

    A curious and open mindset towards yourself is another indicator that you are ready for therapy. If you find that you are curious about yourself, your past, and what can become of your future, therapy is oftentimes a helpful space to turn that curiosity into actionable changes that will lead you to where/who you want to be.